10 Tips on How to Deal with Change

Life Coaching Managing change

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British statesman, Benjamin Disraeli, said, “Change is inevitable, change is constant.”

There are many other wise men and women who basically said the same, just worded differently. We all know that they are right. Change is always there. There’s nothing that can change that. How do we deal with it then? Do we really have to deal with it? The simple answer is, “YES.”

Follow these steps:

1. Acknowledge the change

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No matter what the kind of change it is, you have to acknowledge its existence. You can’t keep on fooling yourself that it’s not happening when it is right in front of you. How can you deal with something you do not acknowledge. Be aware of the change. Be sensitive to it.

2. Recognize how you instinctively react to it

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Knowing that it exists, you must also acknowledge how it makes you feel. Do not invalidate your feelings. You have every right to feel what you are feeling.

3. Manage your reactions

The second step will help you manage your reactions well. While all our feelings are valid and that we are entitled to have these feelings, not all our reactions are valid. We should control how we react to the change. Our reactions should not cause hurt to someone else. We must be responsible for our actions. What we feel does not validate the wrong things we do just because it is a reaction. Ask yourself if you would really want to react that way and what are the consequences of that reaction.

4. Accept the change

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By this time, you should be ready to accept the change. You have acknowledged it, recognized and managed your reactions, and now it’s time to accept it fully. Acceptance may be very difficult, but, it has to be done. You can take your time but you must not take too long a time. Be reasonable and push yourself to accept so you can get on with it.

5. Think of how it impacts you and how it will further affect you

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Think of how this change impacts you at present and how it will further affect your life in the future. No matter how big or small this change is, recognize the difference it made in your life. Rationalize. Think of the possible consequences of this change. Think of the possibilities.

6. Do not overthink

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While you have to be forward thinking, do not let the thoughts consume you. You must learn when to stop and rest your mind. That is because too much thinking will get you nowhere. In fact, overthinking was proven to make you ill and depressed. You have to give yourself a reasonable amount of time to rationalize, but you also have to stop thinking too much and start doing.

7. Ask for advice

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After you have given the change, its effect, and its possible consequences much thought, it’s good you ask others what they think about it as well. Sometimes, we can be short-sighted or we may be looking at things with prejudice. It’s good to know what others think so we can have a fresh perspective to it. We can then compare which makes more sense. Remember to seek the advice of those people you can trust and with proven credibility and impartiality.

8. Set a goal

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Now it’s time to set your own goal. Synthesize everything you’ve gathered- from yourself and from others. Know which direction you want to go to in response to the change. What do you want to do now? What are your short-term and long-term goals in light of the change?

9. Make a plan

Make a step by step plan on how to reach your goal. Make it as detailed as possible. Of course, it has to be realistic.

10. Stick to the plan

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Now that you have a plan, you have to commit to that plan. You have to focus on reaching your goal.

If you want to survive, deal with change. Change always happens and if we don’t know how to cope, we will have great difficulty in trying to live through life. So how?

What is Life Coaching and How a Life Coach can Help You

Life Coaching

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A life coach will empower you by making things clear for you. Life coaching involves counseling, forming an actionable plan, and holding a client responsible for his actions in achieving a goal.

What is Life Coaching?

This is the difference between therapy. In therapy, you have a problem and your therapist will help you understand the root of that problem so you can resolve it. A life coach, however, will also listen to your problem, but won’t go to the root of it. Instead, a life coach will ask you what you want to do about it and will suggest ways to solve that problem, so you can achieve your goals not just by encouraging you but urging you to think about what concrete steps you should take and make sure that you take those steps.

How can a Life Coach help you?

Each Life Coach may have a different specialty. They have been trained, and each of them has a different skill set and expertise. You can be coached on finance, confidence, socialization, relationships, and other areas of your life that you need to improve on. If you want to be proactive, you get a life coach.

If you are at a point in your life where you are transitioning, say a new job, a new neighborhood, you just got married, you just had kids or any drastic change in your life and you are having difficulties, you can consult a Life Coach to set you in the right direction.

Life Coaches will ask you questions you may already have answers to. They won’t tell you which direction to go. They will set you in the right direction by making clear to you where you want to go. Once you have that figured out, a Life Coach will make sure you stay committed and that you don’t go astray. He will help you get things done.

Limitations of Life Coaching

Of course, a Life Coach has limitations. He won’t be able to solve your depression, for example. You might need more than counseling and only a psychiatrist can prescribe you medication. Life coaches are not doctors the same way doctors will not give you a plan of action on how to improve your life.

A psychiatrist won’t give you suggestions on how you can be a better person. He will just diagnose you, prescribe treatment, and medication. Life Coaches cannot prescribe medication. They do not heal people and they do not fix disorders. It’s a fragile line, but what Life Coaches can do is to help someone stay focused on their goal. Life Coaches usually work with high functioning people.

Famous people with Life Coaches

While some say that they don’t need a Life Coach, it doesn’t mean that everyone doesn’t. Take for example an athlete. No matter how famous like Tiger Woods or Manny Pacquiao, they have a coach. They are better than their coaches, but, they still have a coach guiding them, empowering them, and giving them a fresh perspective whenever they get short-sighted or distracted. Even professional sporting teams have coaches. These coaches will schedule training and will make sure that the athletes are in the perfect condition to play in a match.

It’s not just in sports. You may be surprised that Oprah Winfrey, who herself is giving advice on television, actually has a Life Coach, Martha Beck. Leonardo DiCaprio, Hugh Jackman, and President Bill Clinton are coached by Tony Robbins. CEOs have Life Coaches.

Yes, they can be your best friend, but they’re different because your best friend won’t push you to get your goal and remind you to stick to it. You don’t have to tell your Life Coach your entire life the way you narrate everything to your spouse.

You can get a specialized Life Coach on your career or your finances. You will still make the decision, but your Life Coach will help you stick with that decision once you’ve figured it out.

Life Coaching is a serious business for serious people who want to achieve something seriously.